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Pre-Ramadan game plan for busy mums

May 19, 2017

ramadan for busy mums

Every year, I tell myself that I will make this Ramadan better than the last one and that I will accomplish all sorts of goals and nearly every year, I fail miserably. I was reflecting on this a little while ago and realised that it was because I failed to plan. It dawned on me that I was expecting Ramadan to fit in with being a mum, a wife, work, home keeping, and everything else and that just set me up for failure every time. I needed to work everything else around Ramadan not the other way round.

I was also setting unachievable lofty goals or none at all, and that didn’t help either. So this year I thought about what I wanted to achieve and how I was going to do it. I looked up several resources that were incredibly useful and wanted to share them all with you just in case you’re wondering how on earth to do Ramadan with young children.

How to create a pre-Ramadan game plan

I created a simplistic game plan (you can download mine at the end of this post) to enable me to see my goals every day in the lead-up to Ramadan and to be motivated to achieve them. The game plan outlines what you need to get done before Ramadan even begins. I go into all of these in more depth in the video below, but to summarise, it was important for me to:

Set spiritual goals in advance 

So I had plenty of time to research ways that I would actually achieve them. I go into more detail of how I came up with these in the video below.

Come up with an activity list 

So that I can ensure the kids are out for a minimum of 2-3 hours every day. For us, bedtime runs a lot smoother and this is also a way for me to work in some exercise. I use the Hoop app and our local online gazette to look for activities that the kids can participate in and mix it up with days at the park.

Thoroughly clean the house 

Not a spring clean, but a thorough clean so that come Ramadan time, I’m just following my daily cleaning routine and not ‘catching up’ or spending hours scrubbing drawers or doors when I really should be focused on ibadah.

Get Eid dealt with 

Absolutely everything Eid related, done before Ramadan begins. The kids’ outfits ironed and in their closets, our outfits ready and waiting, gifts wrapped, and any decorations done so it’s a quick hang-them-up job only. If you do food gifts for friends and family like I do, get your recipe ready, the packaging, labels, cards, and ingredients (if non-perishable ones) all in the house and waiting. That way, again, we’re not exhausting ourselves completely in the last couple of days with additional things that could have been handled much earlier.

Come up with meal plans 

This is the bit that can be difficult. We prepare dinner as we normally would, nothing special, but I feel like my brain doesn’t work when I need to sit and come up with a meal plan and shopping lists when I’m fasting. I intended to come up with a meal plan for the entire month, but then I saw this Ramadan 30 Day Meal Plan and I was sold. I bought it almost immediately and love it. It’s going to save me loads of time inshaAllah and the recipes are easily adaptable to exclude meat or add meat or make other dietary changes. I’m really looking forward to trying them all this Ramadan.

Make it special for the children 

They’re at an age where they really seem to be able to grasp what Ramadan is all about. I want to ensure I’m making the month special for them too, as opposed to just going all out on Eid instead. So we’ve finished working on our decorations (read about them here)and our good-deed calendar (learn how to make it here) for Ramadan. Our food gifts for family and friends are the last things we have left to check off. The kids deliver these and wish the recipients Ramadan Mubarak 🙂

If you’d like to learn more about my pre-Ramadan game plan, watch the video below:

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Creating, Parenting

DIY Ramadan Good Deed Calendar for your Little Muslim

May 12, 2017

ramadan calendar‘What on earth is a good deed calendar?’ I hear you ask. Think Advent calendar, without the chocolate, expense or having to find a spot for it.

This year, I wanted the kids to really get into the spirit of Ramadan this year and do a little countdown to Eid. I knew we’d need a calendar, but I wanted to add to our Ramadan/ Eid traditions and make one myself that we will use every year.

It was important to make sure that whatever I came up with; took no space at all, didn’t involve chocolate, and was easy and age-appropriate for the kids. So this is what I came up with.

ramadan calendar

The calendar consists of a frame (that you can re-use over and over again and use to display a picture outside of Ramadan time), envelopes, good deed cards for the day and that’s about it.

You’ll need:

A frame or a piece of cardboard or canvas. I got this IKEA FISKBO frame for £5. It measures 50×70 cm.

Envelopes – If you use the same sized frame, you will only be able to fit 30 envelopes on if they are C7 envelopes. I got mine here.

Good deed cards – I used some leftover scraps of scrapbooking paper and stuck some white labels on and then cut around them so they had a little border. These will be reused so I wanted them to look nice. You could just print these off, cut them into strips and pop them into the envelopes. Whatever works for you!

(Optional) – I used some glitter card that I got at Poundland and my With A Spin cookie cutters to cut out a masjid and a moon and star to jazz it up a little. I added some tiny LED fairy lights that I got at Poundland (I’m becoming a regular!) just for extra effect because I have younger children.

Occasional treats to compliment the good deed calendar

I also purchased several little bits and bobs (they’re called party bag fillers here in the UK) that I know the kids would love, to give them as a treat on some (not all) days. These were all really inexpensive. Here’s a list of what I purchased:

Window walker ladybugs

Bendy pencils

Mini dinosaur figurines

Temporary dinosaur tattoos

11-inch punch balls

Animal finger puppets

Since these came in larger quantities, I’ll be using the rest of the items as fillers for children’s Eid gift bags.

To see how I put it all together, watch the video below:

What I put in the good deed calendar

Here’s a list of the good deeds that went into this calendar (in no particular order). My children are 3.5 and 2 years old. Some of these were inspired by The Visual Age’s free Ramadan resources:

  • Thank Allah for something today
  • Donate some toys with Mummy today
  • Clean your spot in the car before you get out today
  • Learn the dua’a for entering the toilet (use my free duaa printables for this)
  • Help Mummy to cook today
  • Keep your room tidy today
  • Thank Allah for giving you Ramadan today
  • Bake cookies for a neighbour today
  • Call a family member (grandparent/ aunt/ uncle etc.) today
  • Smile at everyone today
  • Remember to say your salaam today
  • Set the table for all your meals today
  • Recite Surah Al Ikhlas today
  • Make Eid cards for your family today
  • Pray with your parents today
  • Put money in the donation box at the masjid today (you could slot these ones in on Fridays specifically)
  • Recite Surah Al Fatihah today (the calendar starts with this)
  • Do something nice for your sibling today
  • Say a prayer for someone today
  • Recite Surah Al Falaq today
  • Use your thank you’s, please’s, Bismillah etc today
  • Recite Surah An Nas today
  • Learn the dua’a for entering the home (use my free duaa printables for this)
  • Learn the dua’a for leaving the toilet (use my free duaa printables for this)
  • Help Mummy to make Eid food gifts for family & friends today

If you try this, I’d love to see what you come up with! Please tag me on Instagram or Facebook. If you enjoyed this post and found it useful, please share it with your family and friends. Thank you!

Parenting

Festive badges for the Muslim child

April 30, 2017

FESTIVE BADGES FOR THE MUSLIM CHILD

 

The Ramadan and Eid badges are back! If you’ve been following the blog for a while, you’ll know that last Ramadan, I wanted to create a new tradition in our home, mark the holy month and Eid in a fun way for the kids, and do more for charity. So I designed festive badges the kids could wear for Eid, produced in bulk for others who might want them for their children and sold them on the blog for charity!

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Creating, Parenting

DIY Lifebook for your Muslim child

March 21, 2017

DIY Lifebook for your Muslim ChildAbout a year ago, my sister shared a keepsake product for children with me. It was essentially a lifebook for your child that would store letters you wrote them once a year for 18 years. As soon as I saw it, I knew I had to try and make my own version of it – a DIY Lifebook for the Muslim child.

For those of us too busy to scrapbook or not so creatively inclined, this is a fairly simple DIY Lifebook to put together. Although simple, the finished product is heartwarming and something that both you and your child will cherish. Continue Reading…

Organising, Parenting

Free duaa printables for kids and adults

March 14, 2017

duaa printable

We’ve started to teach the kids duaas recently and I really wanted duaa printables for all over the home to reinforce the importance of them before/ after doing anything. I figured if the kids saw these around the house, they would act as reminders for them to read their duaas and improve their Arabic, increase their interest for learning more about Islam and reading the Qur’an. I began to look for duaa printables that I thought would work but unfortunately, didn’t find anything I liked.

So I got in touch with the wonderful Caroline Sarri over at Mina and Moo Designs – she has a wonderful Etsy store with heaps of beautiful printables, nursery art and digital papers – to help me design what I had in mind. There are some duaas I haven’t memorised myself or ones that I forget to read. So I was keen to develop duaa printables with a more ‘adult’ design for those who want to increase their knowledge of duaas, or perhaps those who want a little reminder before they leave the home, or when they’ve finished eating, etc.

We developed two sets of prints – one that you can use whether you have children or not – and another that is designed specifically for children. You could put these at their level around the home, or laminate them and hole punch the corners to pop them all on a ring. That way, you can travel with them and if you have older children, they might prefer it to prints on the walls.

Each print includes:
  • What the duaa is for
  • The duaa in Arabic
  • The transliteration of the duaa in English
  • The translation of the duaa in English,

for those who don’t have a good command of Arabic, or those that can read Arabic but can’t translate what they are reading. They are designed to be neutral. So if you do decide to put them up in your home, they won’t clash with any decor!

You’ll learn the duaas for:
  • Before you leave the home
  • When you enter the home
  • After you finish eating
  • Before you sleep
  • When you wake up
  • Before you eat
  • When you leave the bathroom
  • Before you enter the bathroom
How to print these:

If you’d like smaller versions of the cards to pop on a ring like I’ve shown above, simply click ‘Print’ and using your print layout settings, choose 4 to a page. This usually works well in ‘Landscape’ mode – but choose whatever appeals to you. Once printed, cut them out and laminate them. Hole punch a corner and use an old keyring and there you have it! Portable duaa cards.

If you’d like a larger version to put up around the home like in the example below, click ‘Print’ and using your print layout settings, choose 2 to a page. Again, this usually works well in ‘Landscape’ mode. Once printed, cut them out and laminate them. We put ours up using white tac to avoid damaging the walls.

Eight simple duaas for things that we do every single day. I hope that inshaAllah this resource helps your family learn and memorise these. I also hope that they become an important part of your home, as they will ours, for years to come.

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Parenting, Reviews

ToddleBike2 Review: Pre-balance bikes for 18m+

January 20, 2017

ToddleBike2 Review

When we applied to write a ToddleBike2 review, I wasn’t sure how Nusaybah would take to it given that she seemed to really enjoy her scooter, and wasn’t interested in much else. Yusuf already has a balance bike so I applied for one for Nusaybah to try out. The minimalist in me was really hesitant to add yet another large item with wheels into the house, but I am so glad I did because they both love it!

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Parenting

4 Arabic resources for preschoolers

January 17, 2017

arabic resources preschoolers

If you’ve been on the hunt for suitable Arabic resources for preschoolers that are fun, engaging, inexpensive and have multiple uses – you will love this list! I’ve compiled four of our favourite Arabic resources for preschoolers along with plenty of photographs and details about why we like them and how we use them in our home. You will also have an opportunity to win one of these resources, so stick around until the end of the post!

Here are the four Arabic resources we use on a regular basis for our preschoolers:

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Parenting

10 Breastfeeding Essentials

August 7, 2016

Breastfeeding EssentialsToday marks the end of World Breastfeeding Week and I’ve been meaning to write about my breastfeeding journeys and figured now would be a good time to begin the series of posts I have planned to document our journey and hopefully help other mums who are new to breastfeeding.

As I write this, I have been exclusively breastfeeding for a total of 32 months (not consecutively) across both my children and I plan to breastfeed my youngest until she is two so we have just over 6 months worth of nursing left. With my first, I did lots of research and went to antenatal breastfeeding classes to prepare, but I felt like no one really tells you how difficult breastfeeding can be and how much support you will need.

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Parenting, Thoughts & Reflections

Three ways for busy mums to feel more centered this Ramadan

June 8, 2016

helping busy mums feel more centered this ramadan

It’s the third day of Ramadan and you’re sort of getting into the swing of things and getting used to the long days of fasting, but you still feel frazzled and like you have a gazillion things to get done, with no time to do them. For mums especially, it can be really difficult to get into the spirit of Ramadan and to make the most of the holy month when you have children relying on you all day and sometimes through the night, in addition to other responsibilities. For working mums, this is even harder, as you have to ensure you are at your best during the day and make time for family and your ibadah in the evenings.

Here are three little things you can commit to doing every day to make you feel a little more centered this Ramadan:

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Organising, Parenting

How I pack for a day out with toddlers

June 1, 2016

packed ju ju be super be tote bag in the queen of the nile print

We took the kids to the West Midland Safari & Leisure Park on bank holiday Monday and since we were there all day (the park opens at 9 am and we left after 6 pm) – I thought I’d show you how I pack for a whole day out with two toddlers!

Now while our safari experience was really enjoyable, packing for it really wasn’t. I could only really start getting things together when the kids were in bed and the excitement over hippos meant I had to literally beg a VERY chatty Yusuf to go.to.sleep. When they were both finally in bed, I was completely exhausted and almost wanted to pass out and tackle it all in the morning. Instead, I got to cleaning up the complete tip that was my living room, and then made a quick packing list and got started.

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